(This originally appeared in the July edition of the Grapevine. The Grapevine is the monthly magazine of Hardwick Baptist Church, Stockton-on-Tees)
I’ve had the
pleasure of spending a good amount of time with my family recently.
At the end of
May, Nancy and I and the kids went away to Scotland with our extended family
and a few friends. Over 30 of us, including 10 under 7s, took over a manor
house and converted stables just south of Perth.
I have always
loved being part of a big family. My cousins have been like brothers and
sisters to me as I’ve grown up and now it’s lovely that the next generation get
time to play together as well.
The
advantages of being part of such a big family, who get on with one another,
massively outweigh the disadvantages, even for those who are less extroverted
than me.
The hardest
downside is that there are more people to lose.
Recently my
Auntie Kath went to be with her Lord and Saviour Jesus. She was 58 and she died
of cancer. She is in a better place and that brings me, and the rest of our
family, great comfort.
But, the
realization that this is only the beginning of the goodbyes we will have to
say, is hard fact to face. As one family member said to me at the funeral, “I’m
not ready to lose anyone else.”
Our family
holiday was bittersweet because that my Auntie would have loved it but she
wasn’t there. At the same time as missing her, having so many of us there meant
we were able to encourage, care for and support one another well.
It was also a
privilege to be able to speak at the Calvary Christian Fellowship weekend away
in the middle of June (that’s the church I grew up in).
We spent the
weekend thinking about the topic of suffering which was hard but very relevant
to many there.
Again, I saw
many of my family members there and it was good to be able to do that.
All of this
got me thinking; you may not come from a big family or whatever size you family
is, you may not get on well with them, maybe there are personality clashes that
flare up if you spend too much time together, but, for the Christian, church is
a our family.
The Bible is
quite clear that church is family (Matt 12:49-50, Eph 2:19, 1 Tim 5:1-2). We
are all brothers and sisters in the Lord Jesus. We are each united to Him and,
as such, connected to one another in the most wonderful way.
So, our
spiritual family is massive. It means that there are more people to say goodbye
to, but each of those goodbyes is shot through with the cure and certain hope
that we will meet again.
Not only
that, but this massive family is blessing from God. In the New Testament we are
constantly being told to _____ one another. (John 13:34, Rom 12:10,16, Col
3:13, Heb 3:13, 1 Pet 1:22.) Whether it’s “forgive”, “love”, “encourage”, the
point is that there is an other, we are together. Life is not a lonely slog up
a mountain, it’s a corporate race that we run side-by-side with others.
Do you see
church as your family? If not, why not? If you do, how can you make sure that
you live that out in practice?
We share the
most amazing things as brothers and sisters in Christ. Because Jesus died for
us, His Father is our Father, His Spirit lives in us (Rom 8:9-11), His
righteousness is credited to us (2 Cor 5:21) and so on.
You might not
feel like committing to church. Maybe you don’t want to get too close to
people. Maybe you don’t want to risk relationships for fear of being let down. Maybe
you are scared of sacrifice.
But, believe
me, it’s worth it.